• Spanking is a common fantasy that is often but not always sexual
• Most people who love spanking lead ordinary lives in every other way
• Spanking can be done safely
• If you love spankings but don’t have a partner, you can find one
• If you have a partner and want to learn how to experiment with spankings, this site will help you
• If you explore real life spanking, it can and probably will be as wonderful as you have imagined

People will sometimes say that “real” spanking involves only a certain position or attire or implement. This is purely a matter of definition and I don’t let other people’s tastes determine my preferences or the words I use to describe them. I enjoy applying my hand or a hairbrush, paddle, cane, switch, or tawse to a feminine posterior, and sometimes to areas nearby, with her in positions and clothing that range from demure to raunchy. You could say “that’s not spanking—that’s paddling, caning, switching, tawsing, or whatever.” Well, sure, but I need an umbrella term for all of these pursuits, these delectable selections from the array of spank style activities, and spanking is the best term we’ve got.

Because spanking is sexual for many people, the spanking fiction and fact here includes more than just red bottoms; there are occasional discreet depictions of more intimate punishments, wet pussies, and orgasms. But I have participated in spankings with women for whom there was no erotic content, just disciplinary spanking or paddling.

Types of Spanking

Disciplinary or Punishment Spankings

Some people with a keen interest in spanking do not find it erotic. Spanking for them is a punishment for past transgressions and a disciplinary tool to spur them on to better behavior in the future.

Erotic Spankings

Spankings are erotic for you if the thought of spanking turns you on. If you are a sub (meaning, someone who is getting spanked), you may or may not be excited during the spanking, but you find the idea, and the memory, arousing.

Both!

Spankings often begin with disciplinary intent but convert into erotic spankings.

Use Common Sense

The real life spankings presented in the scene reports on this site were successful. Nobody suffered lasting injury and everyone got what they wanted out of the experience. Some of the scene reports involve intense play that would be risky if performed by people with too little experience. If you are a beginner and want to experience intense spankings, just build yourself and your partner up and you, too, can do all of this. The fictional spankings sometimes depict even more intense punishments and are sometimes clearly nonconsensual, but, as they say, nobody was harmed in writing the stories.